Detouring is not Failing
The expectations and ideas that we have programmed into us are very rarely much use when it comes to making decisions.
Recently I was talking to a young lad who was confused about making a decision regarding his future.
His dilemma was that he had a part time job as a cameraman in a video production company and also a job as a builders labourer.
The company who made the videos offered him a full time job, but the pay at this time did not match the combined income of the two jobs. He asked for my advice and it was quite sad that he was so confused.
I asked him what it was that he enjoyed doing most and as you can imagine he said making the videos. So I then said what is your problem? He said that unless he could get the same income, from doing the videos, as he was from the combined jobs, he was in some way failing.
I pointed out that by taking a sideways step, or even a backwards step, to be doing what you wanted to do, could never be regarded as failing. To which he replied “ Yeah I realise that, but it is what my parents and friends might think.
How sad, he was going to make a decision based on what his parents and peers MIGHT think.
Fortunately, he took the full time job at the video company and it appears that they have already indicated that in the next few months, his income could well exceed what he was earning before.
There are a few lessons here, number one is that it can never be regarded as anything other than the correct decision when you follow your hearts desire,
Number two, never make decisions based on what you feel others might think, it is your life and doing things that make you happy and content, is an integral part of making the most of it.
Number three, fear and indecision invariably lead to regrets, it is mostly what we have not done that we regret most.
Number four, provided that you give 110%, you are guaranteed to get the most out of any situation. In this case the video company appreciated the decision he had made and also realised how good he was and very soon indicated that he would earn in the very near future, an income that would exceed what he was getting before.
It would have been very easy for him to have pushed the video company for more money and because of his feeling of failure, not accepted the job, but the result of that would have been that he would have ended up just working for money, without any real enjoyment or satisfaction.
If you are ever faced with a decision and you factor in what others might say or think about you, have the courage to follow your hearts desire, it will always be the right decision.
No comments:
Post a Comment